Working Girls and Marriage
In a recent article on Forbes.com, Michael Noer, has a word of caution for the guys:
"...don't marry a woman with a career. "
He cites numerous scientific journals and research statistics to prove that:
"professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat and less likely to have children"
Scares you? Doesn't it? If you are someone, who is considering marriage in near future, you may have crossed this line of thinking yourself. There are too many pros and cons in this debate. For example, as a counterpoint to the above arguments, here is what Elizabeth Corcoran advices guys:
"The essence of a good marriage, it seems to me, is that both people have to learn to change and keep on adapting"
I personally agree to this bottomline. You have to have trust and understanding. The studies only tell you about probability. And quite obviously, most of the respondents just don't follow this basic precept, and most probably those marriages would have failed even without a working wife.
So, know exactly where you stand, before you take the plunge.
5 comments:
Maslow defined self actualization or recongintion and achievement as a primary need after food, clothing, shelter and sex. So to expect women not to have a career is stupid. They too need an opportunity of self expression. One has to find better ways of intra-personal management and family relationships in the new environment.
What about Girls marrying men who are already married to their jobs. What is their likelihood of cheating etc.
This article presumes that the onus and responsibilty of raising a family lies with the women. This has been traditionally true, and proven in the past to be a workable model. This model however does not account for the subjugation, and plain unhappiness that most women are subjected to.
Financial independence commands greater respect and freedom to the incumbent, whether man or woman.
A relationship has to be true and beneficial to either partner to thrive,otherwise it may only survive at the cost of one of the partners.
A career allows women to make the best choices and the financial independence to terminate one-sided and destructive arrangements.
In the post industrial world this is inevitable and benefits the society by allowing both sexes to untilise their talents to contribute fully.
So guys , if you are a typical chauvinistic male person and wishes to raise a family where you are the King and the others at your beck and call, do not marry intelligent , creative women.
It will be a reflection on your level of self confidence.
My wife and I decided, while engaged, that we would like for her to stay home once we had kids. Our son was born 10 months and 10 days after we got married and my wife has been home ever since. It has been a great thing for our family! I am a youth pastor and do not make a lot of money- we could definitely use the extra income, but for our family this is as good as it gets.
I know a lot of couples who wish the wife could stay home with the kids. I want to encourage you to know that it is totally doable. As soon as we got engaged we started living off of my income alone and used my wife's income to save and pay off debt. Had we not done that, she would not be able to stay home with our precious son.
I hope this helps any one considering that route.
Have a great day.
No Dear i completly disagree with this term that married womens get divorced soon. Its jus a mutual understanding between both the genders that maintains the relation it is nothing to do wether a women is working or not working.
With regard to "more likely to cheat", I agree. I see it often and unfortunately I experienced the horror associated with it. My husband had an affair with a career woman who was also married. As he later found out she was in her second marriage and had cheated on her first husband. Nice, huh? As someone who does not work outside the home, I could not find the time to cheat, not that I would ever be that much of a loser. Maybe our career women have a little more time on their hands. Julia had the time,along with no morals.
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