Working Girls and Marriage

In a recent article on Forbes.com, Michael Noer, has a word of caution for the guys:

"...don't marry a woman with a career. "

He cites numerous scientific journals and research statistics to prove that:

"professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat and less likely to have children"

Scares you? Doesn't it? If you are someone, who is considering marriage in near future, you may have crossed this line of thinking yourself. There are too many pros and cons in this debate. For example, as a counterpoint to the above arguments, here is what Elizabeth Corcoran advices guys:

"The essence of a good marriage, it seems to me, is that both people have to learn to change and keep on adapting"

I personally agree to this bottomline. You have to have trust and understanding. The studies only tell you about probability. And quite obviously, most of the respondents just don't follow this basic precept, and most probably those marriages would have failed even without a working wife.

So, know exactly where you stand, before you take the plunge.

KANK rings a warning bell

The Karan Johar movie KANK, has had some good after-effects, with couples today introspecting their own relationships. Quite evidently, the 'boldness' of the film in dealing with extra-marital relationships and 'justifying' it to an extent, has shaken up people.

For the troubled ones, I present here an excerpt from this article, which describes quite well, why people can't resist the allure of 'illicit':

"Love cannot exercise its powers on married people", because "lovers grant everything, mutually and gratuitously, without being constrained by any motive of necessity. Married people, on the contrary, are compelled as a duty to submit to one another's wishes." (as cited in Kakar and Ross, 2005, p.196)

So, ultimately it all boils down to the extent you are willing to be constrained within a marriage, and how happy you can be in it. The movie 'No Entry' may have a funny plot, but that's the reality of relationships today. But, exceptions abound and may be you are the lucky one there! So, like Anil Kapoor says, "Be positive yaar!"

Reservations: Noble Act, Evil Intent

The current OBC Quota Bill has been deferred to Winter session for the Parliament. And the youth 4 equality promises to scale up its protests in the coming days. While it is indeed a breach of trust on the part of the government, to take up the Bill while the matter is 'sub-judice' in Supreme Court, the reasons are entirely ethical in nature, and not legally restrictive. As such, the chaos that we saw in April and May, will continue not just on the streets, but on reams of paper and columns, with people on either side of the debate putting up their own versions of policy imperatives for the country.

People in favour of the additional Quota requirements for OBC, dig up statistics and theories called 'Affirmative Action' to support the view that Indian society needs such quotas for equitable development. In the Hindu column, it brings out a few key-points, which may help us in judging our own stand.

Let me list the sub-issues within this larger debate of Reservation:

1) The guiding principle behind reservation:

The Reservations were meant to provide fair representation for weaker sections within our society. The 'positive discrimination' is considered necessary to allow the disadvantaged and oppressed people to come up on the social ladder. In a huge country like ours with years of caste wars, a segregated society has emerged. To bridge the gaps, opportunities for growth need to be distributed. As such, the principle of reservation holds its ground quite well. But, the politics with its predictable opportunism, has learnt to play the emotions involved here on all sides, to distract people from its own failures. They have a tool to convince the majority of their sincerity in uplifting them, when they failed to provide them with the basic amenities of health and education. Its not the tool, but the thoughtless abuse of it, that disappoints the youth today.

2) Has Reservation worked?

In states like UP and Tamil Nadu, where they already have 50% or more as reserved quota in educational colleges aided/unaided, the reports and statistics paint a rosy detail which every pro-reservationist uses as a case for extending the quotas everywhere. But, look at the facts (for T.N): 80% of the state population is covered by the 69% quota. Also, three-fourths of the admissions are from two-fifths of reserved castes (the creamy layer). Nevertheless, there is no debating the fact, that reservation has helped in significant ways to empower the backward communities and provide them with better chances at making it to the top. But certainly, things can be much better, if only the policy-makers would think beyond petty politics.

3) Creamy layer?

The Youth For Equality's charter of demands
is quite reasonable, though bold. The government should come out with its intentions with this Bill, and how long it plans to continue with the quotas. The disadvantaged, can't claim to be disadvantaged forever.

4) Education standards? The real culprit

Amidst all this debate, the underlying thread of inadequate education infrastructure, keeps coming up. One may discount it, saying we can't wait for that to happen, but suspicions are bound to be there, when the government has the Right to Education Bill, 2005 lying un-implemented, with a projected expenditure requirement of 1.1% to 1.5% of GDP, and still going ahead with the Quota proposal, in such haste.

Ultimately, its not just the act, but the intention too which counts, and clearly, this time, there has been too much of drama with Arjun Singh and allegations of his rivalry with Manmohan Singh (read interview with Karan Thapar) , that an important issue of national importance has been given a hush-hush treatment.

Some more references:

1) Creamy Layer story of Kerala

2) Some Facts on Primary Education in India

3) Interim Report of the OverSight Committee on OBC quota implementation

Entrepreneurship: Do you have it in you?

In economic discussions, it is a foregone conclusion that entrepreneurship is one of the biggest drivers of national growth. Entrepreneurship Index 2004 says here why:

The level of new firm activity reflects a country’s ability to expand the boundaries of economic activity. A constant flow of emerging companies fuels competition and fosters innovation throughout society. Emerging high-growth companies are particularly important in creating value and economic prosperity by bringing new ideas to the market, such as new technologies or business models, or new and improved ways of meeting customer needs.

Over the past 30 to 40 years the United States have developed the best framework conditions for entrepreneurial activity, and today new enterprises account for 30% to 50% of economic growth – and for the majority of jobs created.

For India to grow in such a scenario, the economic activity has to accelerate accordingly. Already, with growing BPOs and KPOs, India is becoming a labour house for the world. But these can not be the ultimate solution, as there are many other low-cost destinations competing with India in Eastern Europe and Latin America. The ideal solution lies in Entrepreneurship.

Ofcourse, it calls for a high degree of survival instinct and a never-say-die attitude simply because there are hardly any guarantees here. But, sticklers for this line, cite this very reason as the biggest motivator. The very fact that you never know what to expect, keeps you on your toes, makes you a better manager and a hard-working professional. Here is a glimpse of an entrepreneur's life (Udayan Bose). Get the depth of passion one needs to be an entrepreneur from his post here. Amazing! isn't it. India certainly needs an army of Udayans to make sure that the 800 million of working population bracing up by 2020 doesn't end up as minions for the MNCs doing petty jobs.

Rajesh Jain (of indiaworld.com fame) has a complete picture on his own blog on 'India needs more Entrepreneurs'

Here is hoping that the knowledge revolution sweeping the world by storm, and flattening the world in the process (ref. 'The World is Flat' by Thomas Friedman), will ultimately lead to an awakening of 'the Indian entrepreneur' ready to take on the biggies of the world. The success of Infosys, Wipro et al are certainly a few milestones we can be proud of, but the Googles and the Microsofts are a long way off.

A few Resources:
1. IITB Ecell/Resources (Check out the Resources section)
2. The Entrepreneur Resources
3. Zeromillion resources
4. CompanyCrafter.com resources
5. A list of Indian Venture Capitalists (The Indian Venture Capital Association)

Recommended Readings:

1. By MIT Entrepreneurship Centre
2. By ZeroMillion

Tips by Larry Page (co-founder of Google)

Success of BPOs and KPOs: A reward for mediocrity?

For so long, Indian educationists have been lamenting the sorry state of affairs in the education sector of India. The level of research work has no doubt been lowly and meagre compared to other developing countries.

Says Kaushik Basu, in a BBC column

There is not a single Indian university in top 300 worldwide, China has atleast six. (On the other hand, )India's production of professionals is phenomenal. With over 300 universities and 15,600 colleges spewing out 2.5 million graduates each year, in terms of the volume of production India trails behind only the US and recently China.

We do have the quantity, but the quality has tied us down to menial tasks, serving as a labourforce for MNCs abroad. The kind of work that goes into a regular call centre, may be financially rewarding, but stifles the creativity of individuals at the same time. Whats sadder is to see engineers taking up such jobs with no regard to their scientific knowledge going to waste. This is a symptom of our flawed education system, where we claim to produce technical workforce numbering in millions, but fail to provide quality skillsets to them, in accordance with the industry, thereby leaving no option for these graduates in multitudes, but to move towards callcentres. Its a different matter, though, that most of these graduates, work hard to move up in the hierarchy, or get an MBA, for a better deal. The point, however remains, that the mediocre education system in India, has actually helped us in creating a success out of outsourcing. For how long, only time can tell. Coz, there are hardly any barriers here for other developing countries to come up and take away chunks of the international market from India. All this, at a time, when Indian youth is poised to be 850 million strong by 2020.

Time for action, I guess! Innovation, creativity and entrepreneurship are the ways out. But education, has to pitch up, lest we become a country of mediocres.

Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna: Reviews flop, film superhit

Yet another Karan Johar's film gets released with all its trademark fanfare. As per the talk going around, only the subject is different here, the style is substantially KJo one.

One wonders whether KJo has decided for sure that all that Indians can like are melodrama, emotions overplayed and stylish unwearable wardrobe. Atleast, NRIs haven't disappointed him yet. The collections for KANK, as expected, are mindboggling to say the least. Its already entered the charts on UK list.

Seems like, KJo's been the smartest if not the best film producer/director of all of them. He is ofcourse, good at tugging the heartstrings of Indians living abroad, knowing how much they love to hold on to anything that's ostentatiously Indian even though it may be far from the reality. Who cares about the reality anyway? So, forget the non-sense and enjoy the exotic locales, conjure up lavish dreams, coz thats what you get with KJo....

Have a look:

kabhi alvida naa kehna - A Trailer

Hope in New Generation

Fali Nariman, widely recognised as India's finest Constitutional lawyer, once said: 'When V R Krishna Iyer speaks, the nation listens.'
Justice V R Krishna Iyer is now 91 years old

Here's what he has to say in an interview to rediff

Do you have hope in the new generation of India?

That is my only hope. Let us hope the generation will do something about bringing radical changes in Independent India. Ambedkar once said: 'Every generation is a new nation.' So this new generation of India may be a new nation with new ideas.

India cannot be changed by old men like me. But certainly India can be changed by the new generation. I have hope in them. We need a transformation, which has to be through the young. The young are going to be in a majority shortly in India. Let us take the young into our fold and make them feel India is ours.

Do you think, the youth is letting the country down in a big way? If there is nothing wrong, then why is there no active youth forum in our country. Why are there only a few people working in social sector. Why do we keep denouncing the government, and still don't care enough to vote. Can we really change? How

Any answers?

Do we need Caste System?

Our society has come a long way from the yesteryears when religion dominated everything we did. Even today, religion is important, but the caste distinctions have lost their relevance altogether. Except for boosting a few egos and suppressing others, they don't serve any other purpose. Today, there is only one distinction, which can and needs to be considered, and that is of the poor and the rich. As youngsters, we can ensure, that these caste distinctions become meaningless in the future, by supporting inter-caste marriages and building consensus on similar issues around us, amongst our friends, family and relatives. How many are willing to step ahead and actually speak out. Here's what some HTites say.

Himanshu

"I would like to be practical here and say it quite clearly that caste distinction has not taken a back seat yet. We assume that we current generations are educated way beyond what our parents and uncles were, have travlled abroad a lot...seen different ways of life etc etc.
But I am sorry to say that caste distinctions still exist within ourselves.

The prime reason for this is grooming by the parents. If the parents of a child, right from his childhood starts talking about Brahminism, castes etc the child will definitely be impacted by that. And that chain will continue to pass on.

Its is unfortunate but true that caste distinctions do exist, within a huge metro like Mumbai, Delhi and within highly educated people as well. "

Sonal

"We all know that this caste system was devised to segment the population on the basis of their profession, when the same profession was passes down to the generations.but in today's scenario where hardly anyone follows his dad's(or mom's) profession it is actually useless to cling to this caste system.
There are brahmins who are gr8 business tycoons.I'm a vaish(baniya) and i've done a course in footwear technology where i've worked with leather for 3 yrs so i guess I should now be of a lower caste.
Inter caste marriages are taking place now.People's perceptions are changing.My sis is married in a brahmin family.
Things have changed but still miles to go............ "

Nilesh

"let me provide the direct answer to the two basic questions. Will participate in the debate later.

1. Do we really need the caste distinctions in our society TODAY?

No way, the caste system has to go.

2. Will you support inter-caste/inter-religious marriages for your own children??"

I do not know if I will have a say in my child's decision.. but inter-caste no problem. inter-religion difinitely won't encourage them.

looking at the way world is changing. Christians and Islam have already aquired a large section of available and on this earth. Jewish are coming bak to life after almost few centruries. All three religion are expanding their width like anything.

There is a strong need to stick to your religion if you want the same to survive. I want my religion to survive and hence, won't encourage anyone to go for inter-religion marriage."

Deepu

"when u don't ask caste or religion while u r a child then why do u insist for the same when u grow up..
I agree that most of us ask religion or caste when they grow up especially while selecting their spouses..

its only bcoz our parents had influence on us & its our responsibilty to try to influence our children in stopping this caste system.. of course religion ki alag baat hai & I too agree with Nilesh..

every religion has its own history & we need to protect it to save our own identity & civilisation.. "

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Are we insensitive to country politics?

It seems we have been conditioned to think that politics is nothing but a refuge of the scoundrels, and the farther we stay off it, the better for us. Now, politics won't change itself. Ultimately, its the people. And people need mobilisation. The youth has become passive today, accepting any raw deal thats thrust on us by the vote-hungry politicians. If a youth society emerges, which can take active interest in social issues, only then can we expect a positive change in our future. Otherwise, the next 50 yrs, wont be much different from the 50 yrs gone by. So, here is what others have to say abt this: (first few responses from our entire discussion

Sonal

"We the youth of India just crib about "wats going on". We blame the politicians , the police, the PM,the CM, The President, the system, everyone but when it comes to voting we shun off our right (which is also a duty)to vote saying,"i can't go out in that heat" or "its raining".I wonder how many of us have votes ( did u ever bother to find out?)
V go on talking about our rights but helllllllo, who's gonna talk about the duties?
It is our country and we need to WORK to make it better."

Nilesh

"The quota issue and Ramadoss incident in AIIMS have shown that there is new breed of activist imegeging among elite students."

"It is being argues for most of the time that educated people will help reducing corruption and blah blah blah..But just look around what's happening in society..
Telgi etc. are educated upto IPS level and still at the forefront of biggest scandal."

Himanshu

"Politics is damned in India not because of old people running it. It is because of unlimited flow of money in their pockets from criminals and corrupt people. Why are we so confident that an Indian youth won't succumb to that? "

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Saanso ko saanso mein...

The 5 questions most feared by Hums are:

1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?

What makes these questions so difficult is that every one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly (i.e., tells the truth).

Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.

Question # 1: What are you thinking about?

The proper answer to this, of course, is: "I'm sorry if I've been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you." This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following: a. Baseball. b. Football. c. How fat you are. d. How much prettier she is than you. e. How I would spend the insurance money if you died.

Perhaps the best response to this question was offered by Al Bundy, who once told Peg, "If I wanted you to know what I was thinking, I would be talking to you!"

Question # 2: Do you love me? The proper response is: "YES!" or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, "Yes, dear."

Inappropriate responses include: a. Oh Yeah, shit-loads. b. Would it make you feel better if I said yes? c. That depends on what you mean by love. d. Does it matter? e. Who, me?

Question # 3: Do I look fat?

The correct answer is an emphatic: "Of course not!"

Among the incorrect answers are: a. Compared to what? b. I wouldn't call you fat, but you're not exactly thin. c. A little extra weight looks good on you. d. I've seen fatter. e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.

Question # 4: Do you think she's prettier than me?

Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: "Of course not!"

Incorrect responses include: a. Yes, but you have a better personality b. Not prettier, but definitely thinner c. Not as pretty as you when you were her age d. Define pretty e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.

Question # 5: What would you do if I died?

A definite no-win question. (The real answer, of course, is "Buy a Corvette and a Big Boat").

No matter how you answer this, be prepared for at least an hour of follow-up questions, usually along these lines: WOMAN: "Would you get married again?"
MAN: "Definitely not!"
WOMAN: "Why not, don't you like being married?"
MAN: "Of course I do."
WOMAN: "Then why wouldn't you remarry?"
MAN: "Okay, I'd get married again."
WOMAN: "You would?" (with a hurt look on her face)
MAN: (makes audible groan )
WOMAN: "Would you sleep with her in our bed?"
MAN: "Where else would we sleep?"
WOMAN: "Would you put away my pictures, and replace them with pictures of her?"
MAN: "That would seem like the proper thing to do."
WOMAN: "And would you let her use my golf clubs?"
MAN: "She can't use them; she's left-handed."
WOMAN: ....silence....
MAN: "Shit."

Mind these Rules!! - From Hums

We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules
from the male side. These are our rules! Please note... these are all
numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!
1. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the
tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it
that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put
it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining
about you leaving it down.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do
not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just
say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's
what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends give you.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In
fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us
to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it
done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it
yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during
commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like
nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the
hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer
you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine...
Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to
discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation, or monster
trucks.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round is a shape.
1. Thank you for reading this; Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch
tonight, but did you know men really don't mind that, it's like camping.

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The Difference Between Men and Women

Let's say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.

And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: "Do you realize that, as of tonight, we've been seeing each other for exactly six months?"

And then, there is silence in the car.

To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he's been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't want, or isn't sure of.

And Fred is thinking: Gosh. Six months.

And Martha is thinking: But, hey, I'm not so sure I want this kind of relationship either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I'd have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving steadily towards, I mean, where are we going? Are we just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we heading toward marriage? Toward children? Toward a lifetime together? Am I ready for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person?

And Fred is thinking: ...so that means it was...let's see...February when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer's, which means...lemme check the odometer...Whoa! I am way overdue for an oil change here.

And Martha is thinking: He's upset. I can see it on his face. Maybe I'm reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed - even before I sensed it - that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet that's it. That's why he's so reluctant to say anything about his own feelings. He's afraid of being rejected.

And Fred is thinking: And I'm gonna have them look at the transmission again. I don't care what those morons say, it's still not shifting right. And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time. What cold weather? It's 87 degrees out, and this thing is shifting like a garbage truck, and I paid those incompetent thieves $600.

And Martha is thinking: He's angry. And I don't blame him. I'd be angry, too. I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can't help the way I feel. I'm just not sure.

And Fred is thinking: They'll probably say it's only a 90-day warranty...scumballs.

And Martha is thinking: Maybe I'm just too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I'm sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. A person who is in pain because of my self-centered, schoolgirl romantic fantasy.

And Fred is thinking: Warranty? They want a warranty? I'll give them a warranty. I'll take their warranty and stick it right up their...

"Fred," Martha says aloud.

"What?" says Fred, startled.

"Please don't torture yourself like this," she says, her eyes beginning to brim with tears.

"Maybe I should never have...oh dear, I feel so..."(She breaks down, sobbing.)

"What?" says Fred.

"I'm such a fool," Martha sobs. "I mean, I know there's no knight. I really know that. It's silly. There's no knight, and there's no horse."

"There's no horse?" says Fred.

"You think I'm a fool, don't you?" Martha says.

"No!" says Fred, glad to finally know the correct answer.

"It's just that...it's that I...I need some time," Martha says.

(There is a 15-second pause while Fred, thinking as fast as he can, tries to come up with a safe response. Finally he comes up with one that he thinks might work.)

"Yes," he says. (Martha, deeply moved, touches his hand.)

"Oh, Fred, do you really feel that way?" she says.

"What way?" says Fred.

"That way about time," says Martha.

"Oh," says Fred. "Yes." (Martha turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it involves a horse. At last she speaks.)

"Thank you, Fred," she says.

"Thank you," says Fred.

Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, and weeps until dawn, whereas when Fred gets back to his place, he opens a bag of Doritos, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a college basketball game between two South Dakota junior colleges that he has never heard of. A tiny voice in the far recesses of his mind tells him that something major was going on back there in the car, but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever understand what, and so he figures it's better if he doesn't think about it.

The next day Martha will call her closest friend, or perhaps two of them, and they will talk about this situation for six straight hours. In painstaking detail, they will analyze everything she said and everything he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every word, expression, and gesture for nuances of meaning, considering every possible ramification. They will continue to discuss this subject, off and on, for weeks, maybe months, never reaching any definite conclusions, but never getting bored with it either.

Meanwhile, Fred, while playing racquetball one day with a mutual friend of his and Martha's, will pause just before serving, frown, and say: "Norm, did Martha ever own a horse?"

And that's the difference between men and women.

Thats MEN 4U

A WOMAN comes home from the hypnotist and tells her husband: Remember
thoseheadaches I've been having all these years? Well, they're gone.
"No more headaches?" the husband asks, "What happened?"
His wife replies: "Margie referred me to a hypnotist
He told me to stand in front of a mirror, stare at myself and repeat 'I
do not have a headache, I do not have a headache."Ido not have a
headache.' It worked!
The headaches are all gone."
The husband replies: "Well, that is wonderful."
His wife then says: "You know, you haven't been exactly a ball of fire
in the bedroom these last few years. Why don't you go see the hypnotist
and see if he can do anything for that?"
The husband agrees to try it following his appointment; the husband
comes home, rips off his clothes, picks up his wife and carries her into
the bedroom. He puts her on the bed and says: "Don't move. I'll be right
back." He goes into the bathroom and comes back a few minutes later and
jumps into bed and makes passionate love to his wife like never before.
His wife says: "Boy that was wonderful!"
The husband says: "Don't move! I will be right back." He goes back into
the bathroom, comes back and round two was even better than the first
time. The wife sits up and her head is spinning.
Her husband again says: "Don't move, I'll be right back." With that, he
goes back in the bathroom. This time, his wife quietly follows him and
there, in the bathroom, she sees him standing at the mirror saying:
"She's not my wife. She's not my wife. She's not my wife!"